James J. Lunch is author of The Broken Heart: The Medical Consequences of Loneliness
and a leading specialist in psychosomatic medicine. He writes movingly about the
dependence we all have on ‘dialogues of love’. These are the verbal and non-verbal
exchanges that bring us close to other people, and close to a feeling of being understood
and cherished by those people. When these dialogues are disrupted and eroded,
significant increases in disease and death follow, with obvious social costs as well as
great personal loss.
Keeping your capacity for loving dialogue alive demands a willingness to be generous,
flexible and tolerant. “An individual can only receive to the extent that he gives,” Lunch
points out, ‘and, in that sense, dialogue is a mirror of his personality.
When you engage with another person, whether this is at work, within a love relationship,
with a member of your family of origin or a neighbour, you rarely explicitly promise to
be generous. Yet the presence of generosity within that relationship (or dialogue), or its
absence, can utterly determine the quality and longevity of the connection.
Generosity usually involves listening and ‘tuning in’, rather than imposing, and a
willingness to enter into the life of another human being as an honoured, respectful guest,
not as an invader or coloniser. This can be most difficult of all between members of the
same family where unconscious ‘debts’ may tangle with equally unconscious ‘requests’
that often emerge in ways destined to get you almost any result but the one you want.

1.What is a ‘Dialogues of love’?
2.Describe what happens when for some reason such a dialogue fails?
3.How are these dialogues of love kept alive?
What is the key factor which determines the quality and longevity of a relationship?
5.Why is maintaining generosity most difficult in a family relationship?
6.Pick out words from the text which mean the same as the following:
a)i unhappiness felt by somebody because they lack friends.
b)the result of a situation .
c)physical illness which occurs because the patient is worried or anxious .
d)prevented from proceeding easily v gradually destroyed.
e)willing to change and adapt.
f) long existence of something.
g)forcing one’s views on others.
h)enter by force .
i)difficult to unravel or smooth out



Are you bts student because same questions h bts k bhi
to ye ques kissme hain apke pas kya ap mujhe bta skte ho
Bcz FEG is common for all
i am a bts student
first year
Unhappiness felt by somebody because they lack friends